Monthly Archives: December 2014


Katherine Mockler: Will We Be Ready?

I wrote this for my blog back in October. During this season of Advent, I believe it is still important to remember and utilize the places that can bring us peace in the midst of chaos – whether it is in front of the Eucharist, in our home sharing a meal with others, or even on a basketball court. The big question for this liturgical season – will we be ready? Are we ready to say, “Amen”, “Bless us, O Lord”, or “Pass the ball?” Have we turned ourselves over to the Lord or are we more concerned with finding that perfect present? During this Advent season, I pray that we may remember “the reason for the season” we are preparing our hearts for.advent wreath

This week, many people may be talking about the Blood Moon, the start of the NHL season, or the colors of fall. But for me, I will be talking about a moment that I experienced today that I will never forget. I was blessed with the opportunity to take a one-on-one walk with one of the boys who is now my fiancé after giving me a shirt instead of a ring. Back to the walk…we went on a walk to the park where we played one-on-one basketball. Now for all of you who just imagined a park with green grass, rocks or woodchips, and little kids, scratch that. There was no grass, no rocks or woodchips, and most of the kids were middle-school aged children. The sound of construction workers and the Long Island Railroad could be heard right there (not in the distance). After two games of one-on-one basketball, more teenagers were coming. And as there were only two basketball hoops, some of the boys joined forces and decided to play together.

I asked Jay (name changed for confidentiality) if he wanted to play with the other teenagers. He told me I had to ask them, but I insisted that he ask them. He did and we began a game of three-on-three basketball. Here I was, the only female, the only white-skinned person, playing basketball with Jay and four complete strangers. Even though my teammates and I lost by one, the game was still fun. I really enjoyed it.

Jay and I continued to play basketball for a little while longer and then took the long way back home. Jay is one of the boys who can always make me laugh and smile. He craves my attention. He gets upset when I give my attention to another boy. But at the end of the day, I’m his “best friend and lady” and he’s my “best friend and man.” As we were walking, I wanted to deepen our relationship. I was able to ask him serious questions amidst the laughter. It was important for me to remind him that these questions were not to make fun of his “disabilities” (or abilities as I like to call them). When he realized I was not there to make fun of him, he went back to his “wacky” (one of his nicknames, because he likes to call people “wack”) self.

Today’s experience was one that I just cannot describe to the amount of degree I want to. It was a moment that has no monetary value. Nobody can buy this on the streets, nor would I think someone would pay to play a basketball game with minority males. It was also a moment that made me realize the importance of parks in city neighborhoods. Among all the buildings and pollution, children of all ages need a place to go where they are safe, where they can be themselves. No matter what kind of trouble may be going on in their lives, no matter what kind of job their parents have (or do not have), the park is where anybody –regardless of skin color – can go to play basketball with complete strangers without being judged.

As a Midwest family girl who grew up playing basketball with my siblings, I was immersed into something I never thought I could do. But I felt safe because Jay had my back. I trust him. He trusts me. We know that we are not going to hurt each other. We know that if something bad were to happen, we would be right there to protect the other. But not everyone has their Jay or Miss Katherine. Not all parks can provide a safe environment for children. If Jay and I had gone to the other park nearby, gang related activities would be present. And that is no place for a child or even an adult to go.

So what can we directly do for our children? Encourage our children to play in the parks. Let them immerse themselves in something they may not be comfortable with. Now what can you indirectly do for our children? Go sit in a city park, even just for ten minutes. Watch the children playing basketball, running around the playground, climbing higher and higher on a swing. Immerse yourself in something you may not be comfortable with. Be that safe presence for them. And if you don’t want to look like a total creeper, bring a book. Put your phone on “silent” and really be present of your safe presence.

Katherine Mockler, 14-15, Martin De Porres, Queens, NY

Katherine Mockler, 14-15, Martin De Porres, Queens, NY

Katherine Mockler is a 1st year LV serving at Martin De Porres, Queens, NY. She is also a 2014 graduate of Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota.

By |December 22nd, 2014|Categories: blog, news + events|Comments Off on Katherine Mockler: Will We Be Ready?

Megan McShane: The “One-Handed” Educator

The end of each quarter of school is always filled with stress and anxiety—final papers are due, students are trying to make up missing work that was due in August, teachers need to set up report cards for each of their classes. At every point in my life, the end of the quarter or semester has been incredibly overwhelming. As a second year teacher and Lasallian Volunteer, I found that I was hanging on by a thread at the end of our first quarter. I kept thinking to myself, “Wait…I CHOSE to do this again?” I continued to push through the stresses even though I was walking around like a chicken with my head cut off. McShaneEDITED2

There was one particularly insane day during the first quarter when the ceiling in my class started leaking and creating puddles on the floor. We had to adjust the entire set up of my class and still manage to focus on our final writing assignment. Were the kids able to be their best selves while our class was falling apart? Obviously not. There was a point during the class when things were totally out of control: there were nine kids surrounding me, frantically asking me to edit their papers; a few students were only on their first few paragraphs; one kid was freaking out because I had not answered his question yet; and all while puddles were still forming in the back of our classroom. The noises from the kids were building up:


“Ms. McShane, you said you would edit this FOUR MINUTES AGO!”

“Why did you want me to change this? It was fine before you edited it!”

“Wait, Ms. McShane, this paper should be FIVE paragraphs?”

As the questions kept coming and the students were getting upset, I became frustrated. I stood up in front of the class and blurted out, “Guys, I only have ONE hand!” There was silence for thirty seconds and then everyone started laughing, including me. We took a few minutes to make sure I still had both of my hands and moved on with our class in a positive manner. This was one of the first moments in my LV experience when I realized that it’s okay to be human and make mistakes in front of the kids.

I am definitely a perfectionist when it comes to work and teaching, and I found in this moment that you do not have to take everything so seriously. The students appreciate the times when you are real and show them that you can mess up sometimes, just like they can. Since this class, I have made a point to not let my frustrations or anxiety take over my class. I’ve tried to be more myself in the classroom. When I get to that breaking point now, I take a step back, take a deep breath, and think to myself, “I still have both of my hands, right?” This thought keeps me moving through challenging times with a smile on my face.

Megan McShane is a 2nd year volunteer serving at De La Salle Middle School at St. Matt’s in St. Louis, Missouri. Megan is a 2012 graduate of Manhattan College.

By |December 10th, 2014|Categories: blog, news + events|1 Comment

December 2014: Steven Patzke

Service Site: St. Raymond High School, Bronx, NY

Steven Patzke

Steven Patzke

College: Loyola University Chicago

What do you do?

In the Boy’s High School, I coordinate the Christian Service Program by planning service trips for 700 students and then take them in groups of 14. After school, I am the head JV and Varsity Bowling Coach. As the Youth Minister in the parish, I started the Youth Ministry program and facilitate the Youth Group each week for 30 high school students.

What is the most important “thing,” do you think, that your students need from you?  

After a week of being the “new teacher” at the Boy’s High School, I quickly learned that students wanted a faculty member that they could talk with about everything from video games to stress at home, from school to sports, and faith. That weekend, I purchased several bags of candy and a bowl. Monday morning, I put the bowl full of candy on the corner of my desk. Soon, students were coming in like crazy. I began learning their names and getting to know each one of them. Since those first weeks, the candy bowl still sits on my desk, but students hardly come in just for candy anymore: they pull up a seat and talk about whatever is on their mind. The guys come in with me asking, “What’s the good word?” but leave talking about what’s on their hearts and minds. I get to hear about their lives and give them advice on relationships with girls, family, God, and one another. It is a massive privilege that wasn’t listed in my job description. These caring, sensitive, sometimes tough young men needed someone who was willing to listen.

Steven with some of the Youth Group in front of St. Raymond Church

Steven with some of the Youth Group in front of St. Raymond Church

The needs of the parishioners in regards to the Youth Ministry Program were much different. The high school aged children of St. Raymond Parish needed a community in which they could grow with their peers. I knew instantly that the students needed a space within the parish that they could call their own and grow in their faith. I worked with the pastor to designate a conference room in the lower church to be used exclusively for the Youth Group. I sought donations to create an atmosphere that teens could feel comfortable in. Shortly after, the original conference room (having just folding tables and chairs) was transformed into the new Youth Room- a space fully furnished with couches, chairs, lamps, tables, food, and games.

The final need was getting the opportunity to meet other students and grow with them in their faith. The Youth Group Kick-Off Event gathered over 60 students. Currently, a regular group meets each week for catechetical programing, games, and fellowship. The group does service and has taken a liking to one another! Both programs are new, so they have definitely filled different needs in the community.

Have you noticed any signs of success in your work?  

Before working at the Boy’s High School, the Community Service Program required students to complete a set number of hours and a reflection paper. The students did not like doing the service, which contradicted the original goals of the program. They needed a service program they enjoyed and benefitted from. I completely reimagined and restructured the program beginning with the name. I changed the program’s name to “Christian” Service Program to emphasize the fact that St. Raymond students serve because Christ calls His followers to do so. Community Service is something that courts require. Unlike punishment, students have been enjoying the service that they do. The new program gets them in the community and working alongside their classmates. They have a lot of fun getting to know one another outside the classroom and getting their hands dirty. The new program also synthesized experiences outside of the classroom with knowledge learned in school. This “experiential learning” fosters development for students to be better prepared for a holistic college education. Many students understand the connection between the service requirement and their faith, so that in itself is a major success.

The neighborhoods of the greater Bronx are witnessing St. Raymond’s students serving the community. Many of our sophomores serve at Serviam Gardens, where my community members and fellow LVs Katie Christensen and Bryana Polk serve. For the past several weeks, students have been asking me if I will be working at St. Raymond next year. I want to tell them that I would work at St. Rays for 35 years if I could. The students, administrators, and pastor have all asked me to return next year, so I see that as another sign of success.

Student vs Faculty Bowling

Student vs Faculty Bowling

As the Bowling Coach, I have had a few successes as well. First, both teams have been winning. I have brought freshman on the teams to play alongside the older guys. I bought the teams their first ever uniforms. Everyone looks great at games proudly wearing their Nike St. Ray’s Bowling Uniforms. Additionally, I planned the first “Bowling Team vs. Faculty” bowling match. Fifteen teachers, including the Brothers and Principal, bowled against the bowling team. Everyone had a great time smack-talking, high-fiving, and laughing. There was a lot of St. Ray’s pride that day. This is a year of firsts for me and for St. Ray’s, so much of it feels like a success.

How has your involvement with the Brothers affected you?

Steven (Front) canoeing with community members and fellow LVs.

Steven (Front) canoeing with community members and fellow LVs.

As an LV who has not come in contact with the De La Salle Christian Brothers before committing to a year of service, I cannot speak higher of my relationship with the Brothers. I am fortunate enough to get to live with completely different Brothers than I work with. The Brothers at St. Raymond are my support system at school. It always seems as though they are looking out for me and giving me a helping hand when I need it. One might think that working with different Brothers than I live with would mean that I know them on different levels. On the contrary, I eat dinner with the St. Raymond Brothers bi-weekly, go out on weekends with them, and have attended a co-worker’s concert together. This regular time with the Brothers that I don’t even live with shows how much they appreciate having an LV at St. Raymond’s and how fortunate I am to work with them. They make St. Raymond’s even more fun than it already is! At home, Brothers Michael, Bill, Joe, and Ed are the guys I trust. Sharing the third floor with Br. Ed, I always have a chance to talk with him one on one about our lives and seek advice. Br. Bill is the kind of guy who can always make me think because he provides new perspective. Br. Michael reminds me a lot of my dad, so it is really nice to have that all around loving person in my life. He is always up for a good laugh or exchanging stories about St. Raymond (as he is an alum). Br. Joe always asks about my day. He makes a point to see what is going on and how my ministries are doing. Each one of these men has countless years in education and faith development. Coming home from school each day and the Youth Group on Sunday allows me to seek their advice on situations that they encountered in their time as tenured teachers. This guidance gives me the wisdom that many new teachers don’t have. When graduating in May, I knew I wasn’t mature enough to go and live with just post-grad volunteers who don’t know each other, just started their first teaching jobs, and moved to a new city–the Brothers are the ones who made each of those transitions seamless. I am quite thankful for each of them.

 What would you say to a friend from home who questioned why you chose to live with the Brothers?

Whenever I talk about living with the Brothers, I contrast it to not living with the Brothers as a post-grad volunteer. Not living with the Brothers is like going to a Yankees game to learn how to play baseball. However, when you get to the game, the Yankees just left their bats, balls, and mitts lying there for you to figure it out for yourself. Living with the Brothers is like playing with the Yankees. They show you the proper technique, good strategies, and how to work as a team. I for one would way rather play with the Yankees than learn baseball without any help. So too with living in an intentional faith community with the Brothers–I learn directly from the men who have committed their lives to educating the poor and practice their faith every day.

Why would you recommend the LV program to a college senior considering volunteering?

This program has changed the way that I understand myself, my relationship with those who do not come from the same means I do, and my faith. Joining the LV family, I made 50 new friends with the same drive to serve that I have. We are committed to those we serve and support one another from across the country. This smaller family dynamic enables us to care for one another and care for the community at large. You might think that you want take a year off by post-grad volunteering, but this experience is farther from taking a year off than starting a salaried job. Living with fellow LVs and the Brothers provides a community that is second to none, and your service experience will make you wake up each morning excited to go to work. I would not trade my LV experience for anything.

Why would you recommend a contribution to the LV Program from a prospective donor?

Raking leaves at Visitation Catholic Church for a Christian Service Trip.

Raking leaves at Visitation Catholic Church for a Christian Service Trip.

The Lasallian Community of Bedford Park invites guests to stay over on a regular basis. One time, I asked Br. Bill if guests make a contribution to the house after staying. He replied, “there is no need for these people to make a contribution because of the good work they do for our communities already.” A donation to the LV program is both a contribution to the work LVs do at their sites, but also to the communities who help members of the community serve as well. A donation to the LV program isn’t just one donation, but it is a donation that enables the LV community and the Brothers to help others who serve as well. The LVs are not the only people who benefit from a donation to the LV program, rather, those associated with the Lasallian community at large benefit from a donation!

How would you like to continue your involvement with the Lasallian family after your time with the Lasallian Volunteers?

I plan to help the LV program financially in the future. I also plan to get together with the Brothers, my fellow LVs, and those I served long into the future. In a simple way, when I see someone wearing anything that says “La Salle” or “Christian Brother,” I will say, “St. John Baptist de La Salle…” and I guarantee they will respond, “pray for us.”

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